Your both options are not in same league dude, and you got to check with your wifey for her acceptance of Xterra than our advise.
LR2, perfect for wifey or for small run. Nice looking, Safe and reliable but comes with limited offroad capability.
Xterra, awesome offroad capability, safe and relaible but less comfy, more road noise but bigger space than LR2 for grocery bags and kids to accommodate.
I am sure now you can pitch her appropriately Good luck.